If you’re a sapphic wanting to look for love but wondering if it’s the right time, this one’s for you!
BY SOFIE ROOS
I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist and relationship therapist as well as author at the Swedish online magazine Passionerad covering sex and relationships. Here are five signs that tell you that you’re ready to enter into a romantic relationship.
You want someone, you don’t need someone
This means that you’re doing alright on your own, and don’t feel that a relationship is something you need because you can’t be alone. Instead you view it as something you feel would enrich your life, and is something you want because you want to share your life with someone else.
It’s also important that YOU want a relationship, and don’t enter one because it feels thrown upon you, such as because of other people’s expectations.
You know yourself and are open to learning more
It’s difficult to enter a relationship without knowing things about your needs, who you are, what qualities you look for in a partner and how you want a relationship to be.
While you don’t need to know everything, having no clue about these things leads to a bigger risk of getting into a bad relationship. Make sure to have spent some time and thought on getting to know who you are. Also, spend some time in your own company before entering a relationship.
You can communicate your feelings and needs
A big part of increasing the probability of a healthy relationship is to be able to articulate your feelings and communicate your needs and boundaries. You also need to be able to ask your partner about their, and respect what they say.
You have time and energy to invest in someone else
Building a healthy relationship takes time and energy, so being in a situation where you feel that you have that is important for being able to give the best version of yourself to a partner.
This doesn’t mean that you should go around and wait for the “perfect timing”, because that might never come. But you should feel like a relationship is something you can manage right now.
You have gotten over your ex and learned something from them
If you’ve been in another romantic relationship before, it’s important that you’re over them and feel ready to let go and fall for someone else.
You should also reflect on the recent relationship and try to learn things from it, both good and bad, before you start over again with someone new.
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