While lesbians and sapphics have a reputation for taking our time in the bedroom, we can also have sexy AF quickies. Here are some sexpert tips and tricks…
BY SOFIE ROOS, IMAGE VIA CANVA
Having quickies is hot, pleasurable and helps to keep your sex life alive. But how can you get better at it?
I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist and relationship therapist, as well as author at the Swedish sex and relationship magazine Passionerad. In this article, I’m here to guide all you DIVAs out there to better and hotter quickies!
Ways to explore quickies in a hot and pleasurable way
Talk about how you take initiative
Let your partner know how you show that you’re horny and want to have a quickie. This is something that can fly over the head of your better half, especially if you’re in a situation that’s not associated with being intimate.
Look into situations/places you find hot and appropriate
You may not be up for having sex when you’re running late for work, but love a quickie when just waking up. Alternatively, you might not feel comfortable with getting intimate in the car while going home from the gym, but love quickies in the shower after the workout session. Make sure you know what each other would be comfortable with.
Quickies ≠ rough and fast sex
A common misconception is that a quickie means that the sex you’re having must go physically fast.
Instead, try to explore slow sex in a limited time and use it more as a way of teasing. That’s one of the best ways of building up sexual tension between you and making you want more.
Focus on one thing
You won’t be able to do it all during a quickie, so choose one thing and focus all your energy and time on that, no matter if it’s fingering, oral, licking ass or strapping.
Having aftercare is still important
Check in on each other after the quickie and make sure you’re doing great. It’s also a good idea to talk about what felt hot and what eventually didn’t work out so well, so that you can keep getting better at having spontaneous sex in a short time.
Why does it feel so darn good?
Quickies release oxytocin and dopamine in a short time, they often happen spontaneously and in the heat of the moment. Not only is this sext but it helps keep the sex life alive and interesting over time. This is not only awesome for your intimacy, but also for keeping your relationship streamy, stimulating and fun.
That said, try to have more quickies, and even though they’re just a minute or two, it’s way better and more pleasurable than nothing!
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