Looking for more pleasure in the bedroom? Then get ready to take some notes
BY SOFIE ROOS, IMAGE BY COTTONBRO STUDIO
As women and non-binary people, our bodies are full of erogenous zones — sensitive areas dense with nerve endings that, when being stimulated, will enhance the pleasure. By adding the zones into your sex life, you can make the intimacy more interesting and dynamic, regardless of whether you’re having solo sex or getting busy in the bed sheets with a partner.
I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author for the Swedish relationship magazine Passionerad, and in this article, I will guide you through the erogenous zones of the female body, both the commonly explored and the overlooked ones!
First things first – what is an erogenous zone, and how can exploring them benefit one’s sex life?
An erogenous zone is a part of the body that’s extra sensitive towards stimulation from for example pressure, touch or vibrations, and that when being stimulated can make one horny and/or lead to sexual stimulation.
This means that exploring these zones as a queer woman or non-binary person can lead to deeper pleasure. It also leads to better variation, which makes the sex more interesting. So, by exploring the erogenous zones, you can make your sex life richer and more dynamic.
Get to know these erogenous zones…
The scalp is full of nerves, and a pair of soft fingers or nails that run over the head, or even a hairbrush that’s used on the scalp, can lead to strong pleasure.
Some ways to stimulate are by doing circles with your fingertips, or by running them through the hair. You can also massage the scalp.
The neck is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on the human body, and to get kissed, licked or carefully bitten on and by the side of the neck is an all-time classic.
Breathing against the skin or using a feather to lightly touch the neck are two other pleasurable ways to stimulate!
The base of the spine. This zone on the body contains a lot of nerves that can lead to a strong sexual stimulation, especially during massage or if giving light pressure by using your fingertips, your tongue or a feather.
To involve the base of the spine feels extra great during foreplay just before anal sex, but is also highly pleasurable before vaginal penetration.
The bottom of the foot. This is an underrated erogenous zone that’s not for everyone due to some being too sensitive and ticklish. However, for some, it can feel amazing to simulate this part of the body.
Licking the bottom of the foot can also make you crazy with horniness, especially if you have a foot fetish!
The sides of the chest. The nerve ends that go along the ribs are sensitive, and gentle pressure, kisses, strokes with your fingernails or licking with your tongue can give a surprisingly hot response.
The nipples. To make this as pleasurable as possible, you should use lots of saliva, and lick as well as suck on one of the nipples while you stimulate the other one with your finger and some lube, preferably by going back and forth with the finger over the nipple.
The inner thighs are a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Use your fingertips and gently stimulate the thighs, preferably to tease your partner before stimulating their genitals.
The ear lobes give great pleasure when being stimulated in an intimate moment. You can lick, gently bite or breathe on the ear lobe.
The armpits are an erogenous zone that’s most pleasurable to stimulate if you have a fetish for them.
Not only are they sensitive towards stimulation such as licks or sniffs, they can also give much pleasure to the one stimulating, thanks to the odor and taste which, for some sapphics, feels extremely intimate.
The hands are one of the parts of the body with the most nerves, and the nerve endings can lead to lots of sexual stimulation if being massaged.
More erogenous zones on people with vulvas
Some of these zones are quite well known among sapphics, while others don’t get as much attention.
The clitoris is the most well known erogenous zone – because hey, what queer woman or non-binary person doesn’t know about it…?
However, a list like this is not complete without this organ, which contains more than 8,000(!) nerve endings, most of them hidden inside the body.
The clit can be stimulated in a variety of ways, from the fingers and the tongue, to being sucked on, or by using many of the different versions of clitoral vibrators that are out there.
The vaginal opening is highly sensitive, especially for light stimulation with some fingertip feel, so use your fingers or your tongue gently to explore this area, preferably before inserting anything.
The g-spot is another classic erogenous zone many are aware of – yet many don’t know how to stimulate it, or simply forget about it! You’ll find it at the front wall of the vagina, around three to five centimeters in, and you can stimulate the spot by using fingers or a sex toy made for g-spot stimulation, such as a dildo or a g-spot vibrator!
The cervix. For some people with vulvas, stimulating the cervix through deep penetration (for example, by pegging or using a dildo in positions that give a deep angle, such as doggystyle or the missionary with the legs up in the air) feels amazing. However, some instead find it unpleasant, so try it out carefully.
The mons pubis.This area is sensitive towards pressure and light touch – so play around with that by using your hands.
More erogenous zones on people with penises
The underside of the balls. This area, also called “scrotum”, is one super sensitive erogenous zone that during light licking, massage or even sucking can lead to strong pleasure. It can even lead to the prostate being stimulated indirectly, and is in addition a great way to prepare for anal sex.
Perineum. This is the area between the anus and the balls, and it’s an erogenous zone with tons of nerves that are highly pleasurable to get stimulated, for example with a vibrator, hands or by tongue!
The prostate. Did you know you can enjoy getting stimulated regardless of being top or bottom? You can stimulate it in other ways than through penetrative sex, such as by using a finger or a sex toy!
The frenulum. This is the elastic band that connects the foreskin with the penis glans, and it’s full of nerves that can be stimulated with fingers and lots of lube, with a tongue or with a vibrator.
Last but not least…
Remember to communicate around erogenous zones with your partner. Let them know which zones you’re curious about, as well as ask them if there are any zones they’d like to get stimulated on.
Also remember that if exploring your own erogenous zones during masturbation, you’ll be able to let your partner know how to stimulate you the best, so start off solo!
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