The On My Mama singer spoke about her sexuality and past relationships on Emily Ratajkowski’s podcast High Low 


Sapphics, the day has finally come. After years of waiting, Victoria Monet has confirmed that she did in fact have some sort of romantic relationship with queer icon Kehlani. Speaking on Emily Ratajkowski’s podcast High Low, Victoria shared a story about her current boyfriend John Gaines and his lack of jealousy. 

“While pregnant, I did a Touch Me remix with Kehlani, and the song is about her,” she said. “We went in the studio, there was no jealousy [from him].”

Brb, we’re just hyperventilating here! Did Victoria Money just reveal that one of the sexiest songs of all time is about sapphic love? 

Em Rata clearly felt our level of excitement as she questioned the singer about her relationship with Kehlani. For years, rumours have been flying around about Kehlani and Victoria’s dating history, and finally Victoria has put those speculations to rest. 

Victoria responded: “We’re friends. I kind of am like that with all of my past relationships. I really don’t like the idea of like, now someone’s dead to me, unless they did [me wrong].… I just got over it. I like to have an open connection. I don’t want to kill somebody off. I feel like that takes even more energy to like, try to avoid people and trying to hate them.”

Earlier in the interview, Victoria also spoke about her sexuality and her coming out. She references her iconic coming out tweet where she revealed that she was bisexual. 

“My coming out on Twitter was a rebuttal to an ex who was trying to say that we were still together. I was kind of dating a woman. When I tweeted I was like: wait, did I come out? The responses were what validated that I came out. It was something that I had known for a long time, so I hadn’t prepared a statement.”

She continued saying that “it was freeing, and I felt like I could exhale.” 

“In songwriting, I stopped writing pronouns that weren’t accurate. Even though I would write songs about a woman before, I would be like ‘he’ because that’s what I was expected to be attracted to. It was really freeing, and it opened up another window of creativity where I could say whatever I actually feel and be true.”

What a great day to love women! Victoria Monet, we adore you. 

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