Dating when you’re bisexual can be very tiring. So, here’s a guide on what not to do if you’re about to date a bi babe for the first time
BY SOFIE ROOS
Are you about to go on a date with a bisexual woman for the first time? I’m Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist and relationship therapist, as well as an author at the sex and relationship magazine Passionerad. Here are six things I wish people wouldn’t do when dating bi women.
Make assumptions about her preferences
Some bisexuals prefer men, women or other genders. Others don’t have any preference. No matter what her preference is, she’s there with you, so don’t ask. Enjoy your time together and trust that she’s there because she’s into you.
Get jealous of everyone
Being attracted to more than one gender doesn’t mean you are get turned on by everyone. So, don’t feel threatened or get jealous of every person they meet. That will just be draining and mess things up between you.
No, a bisexual woman doesn’t run a bigger risk of cheating on you. This is a very tiring prejudice!
Think that “she’s bi = she’s straight”
It’s common within the queer community to think that bisexual men are gay and bisexual women are straight. Many believe the latter is just with girls for fun and only considers being with a man in the long run. This is simply not true and it’s sad that this prejudice is still so prevalent in 2025.
Believe that you’re better than her
Never hint that she’s less worthy than you because she’s bi. This is an experience way too many bisexuals have. Just treat her like you’d treat anyone you’d date!
Assume that she’s super experimental and sexually open
People tend to believe that all bisexual women are super open to all kinds of adventurous sex. As with all things sexual, this is highly individual. So don’t make assumptions!
Treat her like an item on your bucket list.
Don’t say “I’ve always wanted to be with a bisexual”. This makes it sound as if you’re using her for your own fantasies and experience, rather than because you genuinely want to be with her.
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