There’s a misconception that this is only for cis gay men. But, good news: people of all genders and sexualities can find pleasure in anilingus
BY SOFIE ROOS
Performing oral on someone’s ass during sex is often misunderstood as being something only gay men find pleasurable. This act, which is also called anilingus or rimming, targets the anus, which is a sensitive erogenous zone for people of all genders and sexualities, including queer women!
I’m Sofie Roos, a Swedish-based sexologist and relationship therapist, as well as writer for the Swedish sex positive online magazine Passionerad. Here, I will guide all you sapphics who are new to rimming so you can explore it in the best way possible!
Tips and tricks for making it feel as good as possible
When licking someone’s ass, I recommend being very gentle and relaxed with the tongue. Use soft movements and lots of saliva and/or lube, and really go in for it.
You can do circles, penetrate the entrance of the anal with the tip of your tongue, and you can lick up and down. Also lick around the anal opening since the whole area is sensitive.
Combining rimming with fingering the vagina, or stimulating the clit, is a trick that will take the pleasure to a whole new level. When it comes to sex positions the 69, missionary or doggystyle often feels best!
Hygiene is important
I recommend that the one getting their ass eaten clean themselves properly before the session by taking a good shower. One can also use an anal douche if wanting to feel fully clean!
Hygiene is important, not only due to taste and health reasons, but also because it makes the one getting rimmed able to relax more without needing to worry about their partner having an unpleasant time.
How to bring up the idea of trying rimming with your partner
To rim or get rimmed is a common sexual fantasy, and while it might feel taboo, the chances of your partner being into testing it out are quite likely.
For some, it feels best to have a chat about trying to eat ass when not having sex. To casually bring it up when already talking about sex can be a way of doing it that feels easier. Others prefer to ask during sex, such as by saying, “Can you go down on my ass?”. Just make sure to have cleaned yourself beforehand.
You can also hint to your partner when they eat your pussy that you’d like them to go down on your ass and see if they’re up for it. Using body language can feel easier than using words.
Why does it feel so good?
The area around the anal, as well as the anal opening, is full of sensitive nerves that, if licked by a warm and wet tongue, send tons of signals of pleasure to the brain.
Involving rimming in the bedsheets is therefore a great way to enrich your sex life!
It might be the perfect warm-up before anal sex
If you’re into anal play – for example, pegging or stimulating the ass with your fingers – having an ass eating session is one of the best foreplays to make the sphincter relax, so don’t overlook it as a great way to prepare for anal penetration!
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