Here are 9 expert tips and tricks to spicing up your sapphic sex life
BY SOFIE ROOS, IMAGE BY ANITA JANKOVIC/UNSPLASH
Are you tired of your foreplay routine, and would like to add some new spicy things to mix it up?
I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author at the Swedish relationship and sex positive magazine Passionerad. And you’re in luck because here I will give my best advice on things to do to make the sapphic foreplay hotter!
Start before getting into bed
Begin the foreplay earlier than right before the sex, such as by sending your partner a hot text message before seeing each other, by using a remotely controlled panties vibrator when taking a drink or having dinner, or by taking a hot shower and cleaning each other off. This makes you hornier, and it will feel more intense when finally getting to bed.
Try dirty talk
Whisper something dirty to your partner when you’re on a walk. Say how much you want to eat them out when sitting in the car on your way home, or send them a message saying that you’ve put on your hottest underwear and are waiting for them in the bedroom when they get home.
This stimulates the imagination, and since the brain is often called “the biggest erogenous zone”, it will make you much more turned on.
Involve more erogenous zones
Our bodies are full of sensitive areas that, if stimulated during an intimate moment, will give pleasure and make you more turned on, so explore them together.
Further read: What are erogenous zones? And how to use them to spice up your love life
Tease, tease and tease
Wait to rip their clothes off, and instead, tease your partner with kisses, gentle touches and licks. The more you build it up, the better it’ll feel when going “all in”.
Play with hot ‘n’ cold
To involve temperature play during the foreplay makes the body more sensitive, so pour some lukewarm lube over their vulva or ass when they’re standing in doggy, put an ice cube in your mouth and lick their thighs, or give an erotic massage with heated massage oil.
Read sex novels for each other
Find an erotic novel that seems hot, and then read it out loud to each other. This makes you connect with the story in a way that creates a very intense and sensual moment.
It might feel a bit awkward at first, but when you get into it and start doing it with more feeling, it will make you so turned on, because you become a part of the story. And yes, it’s okay to touch yourself or each other during the novel!
Act as if you have never met before
This is a fun, hot and beginner-friendly foreplay that can start in bed, or long before, such as during a dinner. Simply act as if this is the first time you’re meeting, and go all in for it – hit on each other and buy drinks if starting outside, or act as if it’s the first time you’re intimate if starting in bed. This is something that can create a very tingling atmosphere.
Sync your breathing
By breathing at the same pace, you can create a very emotionally deep connection where you get almost spiritually connected. If it feels comfortable, you can also look each other in the eyes while exploring one another’s bodies!
Masturbate in front of each other
Don’t be shy – sit in front of each other and touch yourselves to the view of your partner doing the same. That’s the best porn you can watch!
Pro tip: Try to follow the “look, but don’t touch” rule, meaning that you should try to stick to yourself as long as you can.
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