The Leave Me Alone singer opened up about her love story for a cover interview with Cosmopolitan
BY NIC CROSARA, IMAGE BY ZORA SICHER
The last few years have been a whirlwind for musician and actor Reneé Rapp. She’s graced our screens as Leighton in The Sex Lives Of College Girls and as Regina George in the Mean Girls musical film. Fans have had her first EP, Everything To Everyone and first studio album Snow Angel on repeat. Though she’d publicly identified as bisexual, she came out on SNL through her “little lesbian intern” sketch. She’s performed on tour and at many festivals, including Coachella, where she invited the cast of The L Word to join her onstage. She also hard launched her relationship with British musician Towa Bird. The two being established as a certified celesbian power couple.
Last month, the singer released a single from her upcoming Bite Me album, titled Leave Me Alone. Lesbians, sapphics and queers all around the world got excited for what’s lining up to be a very cool Reneé Rapp summer.
For her cover interview with Cosmopolitan the icon opened up about her love story with Towa, her relationship with sex, letting things go and having an awesome group of queer friends.
When addressing the online discourse of pop girlies getting into healthy relationships and fans being worrided that their new music is going to suck, Reneé said: “Honestly, I was concerned when I started dating my girlfriend, which is such an intense self-sabotage. I was always under the impression that I had to be miserable to make good music […] Some of the most talented artists in the entire world have been in healthy and happy relationships. I’ve had more good days than I’ve ever had in my life [in this relationship], and I feel like I’ve made music that’s better than anything I’ve ever made.”
One of the lyrics of the singer’s latest single is: “I took my sex life with me, now the show ain’t fuckin'”, which is a reference to how The Sex Lives Of College Girls was cancelled after Reneé left to pursue her music career. She was likely addressing this when she told the publication: “There are lines in Leave Me Alone, when we were writing it, I was like, ‘Thank fucking god we wrote this because this feels cathartic. I feel so happy to be talking my shit.’ But then a month later, I was like, ‘Oh, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.’ Then I realized that it’s not actually that fucking deep.”
When asked about her love story with Towa, the Pretty Girls singer said: “She’s my best friend. I worship her. I love talking to her, and I also just love watching her talk. There’s something so special about watching the person you are deeply enamoured with talk about something they find interesting that has nothing to do with you.”
It’s clear that Reneé is truly smitten. When the publication asked if she’d ever open up her relationship with Towa she said: “Fuck no. Hell no. Y’all do what you want to do. Not with mine. I’ve done it before. That shit is not for me because now I’m with the person I love and I want to marry – stay the fuck away!”
A lot of Reneé’s lyrics and visuals have been very sex positive. So when asked what her relationship with sex is, it’s no surprise that her answer was: “Sex is amazing for me right now. I’ve always been a very sexual person, and I’ve always known that about myself. Sex is just kind of cool to me. A lot of people don’t really like sex, and I think that’s totally fine, but I, personally, am really pro riding.”
When talking about having a group of queer friends and how it’s impacted her identity she ellaborated that, “Straight people don’t exist to me. I see one and I’m like, ‘What the fuck are you doing here?’ It’s just made my life so fulfilled and so happy. I like my personal life more than I like my work life. I’ve never had that experience. Not once before this.”
She goes on to explain that hers and “Towa’s house is the lesbian frat house. We don’t have rugs because we can’t afford to buy new ones every couple of weeks. I’m around people who I actually enjoy and who are funny and who are really pretty.”
The interview ends with Reneé sharing her advice to young queer readers amid the scary time we are currently living in. “Really rely on people around you who are maybe more comfortable or less at risk than you are. We kind of have a pact among certain friends of mine that’s like, ‘I can take a way bigger blow than you can. Let me do that shit.’ I’m not going to let my friend who exists in a trans body go out and put themselves at risk because they immediately have a way bigger target on their back. There is such a dire need for protection, and the government is not going to give that to you. No one here is going to give that to you but the people you can trust.”
You can read the full interview at cosmopolitan.com.
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