Here’s some sapphic sexpert advice to take your solo sex to the next level
BY SOFIE ROOS, IMAGE BY ÖMÜRDEN CENGIZ
Are you a sapphic who’s looking for some new ways to get off when being solo? Well, you’re in luck because I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author at the Swedish relationship and sex positive magazine Passionerad and in this article, I will give you some of my best masturbating advice that makes solo sex more pleasurable, dynamic and interesting!
Put on a panties vibrator and go out
Who says that masturbation always needs to happen at home? Put in a remotely controlled vibrator, such as a couples vibrator, in your panties. Once you’re ready go out for a walk, a drink, have lunch, or enjoy the great weather at a park bench or the beach, all while you control the vibrations on yourself, while trying not to reveal yourself to others.
Pro tip: Pick an insertable vibrator that stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris!
And speaking of your G-spot, be sure to get it involved
The G-spot is an amazing erogenous zone that gives tons of pleasure if stimulated. However, it can be quite tricky to reach it yourself, which makes many not include it in their masturbation.
By investing in a G-spot dildo, you can easily stimulate it on yourself without needing to get into any tricky or uncomfortable positions. I would recommend going for a model in stainless steel – they give a nice feeling, hold forever and look great!
Further reading: What are erogenous zones? And how to use them to spice up your love life.
Use your shower head
Turn up the pressure a little bit and point one of the beams at your clitoris. Hold the shower head close to your clit, play around with different temperatures and pressures, and see if there’s any massage jet you can turn on, which’s a thicker beam. I promise that this will turn your showers into clitoral orgasm sessions!
Involve your anus
The area around and in the anus is full of sensitive nerves, that if being simulated with a finger and some lube, a butt plug, an anal vibrator or a small dildo, makes the pleasure more intense.
Stimulate your clit and inside at the same time
By using a vibrator on your clitoris and your fingers or a dildo inside of you at the same time, you can take yourself to another galaxy of pleasure. I recommend using an air pulse vibrator since they are intense and easy to use, as well as a dildo with a long shaft so it’s more convenient to reach.
Get in front of a mirror
Sit in front of any big mirror you have at home. Masturbating to your own view is not only good for making you more comfortable in your own body – it’s also surprisingly hot. It also makes it easier to navigate your own body.
Masturbate in new places
Get intimate with yourself in the forest, in a locker room, on your balcony, at your kitchen table, on the sofa, on a public toilet – or even your car while it’s parked somewhere private.
Don’t forget to bring a small vibrator, some lube and some wet wipes in your purse if going for a place that’s outside your home. By always carrying that with you, you’re also free to go for some spontaneous solo sex whenever you get in the mood!
Play with temperatures
Put an ice cube on your clitoris and let it melt or heat up some lube and finger yourself with it. By using hot and cold while masturbating, you will make it feel a lot different, and many times more enjoyable. Just make sure that you’re not damaging yourself from using something that’s too cold, or too hot!
Invest in a dildo with a suction cup
Many people forget about dildos with suction cups! The cup makes you able to ride the dildo in cowgirl, such as on the floor by standing on your feet, or by putting it on a chair and sitting on it. You can also bounce against it in doggy style if you place the dildo on a doorframe.
Edge yourself
To build up the climax and stop just before orgasming, take a short break and then repeat is called edging. It’s an amazing way of getting to know your own orgasm, as well as to build up much stronger climaxes.
Want to learn more? Read: What is edging? And how to explore it solo or in sapphic sex.
Try different positions
Many sapphics tend to get stuck in missionary while masturbating. By changing between different sex positions, such as doggystyle, lying on the side, cowgirl or lying on the stomach, you can reach new feel-good angles on yourself!
7 tips for hotter solo sex for trans women or non-binary people with a penis
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Involve the anus
The anal is full of nerves that, if stimulated, will make you feel strong pleasure. You should definitely try stimulating your prostate, either with your fingers, by using the shower or with a sex toy made for the p-spot. These are ways you can reach prostate orgasms. Just remember to use plenty of lube and to wash yourself before.
Touch your penis in new ways
While some trans women don’t struggle with jerking off, for others, this can be dysphoric. If you’re feeling that way, then exploring other types of stimulation can feel more comfortable. You can carefully stimulate the frenulum (the back of the glans), doing circles on the glans (almost like you’re stimulating a clitoris), or simulating the shaft of the penis. This can offer up a more affirming experience.
Fantasise that you have a vulva
Speaking of fantasising: close your eyes and imagine you have a vagina, something that’s easier if stimulating your privates in other ways than jerking off! By using your imagination, you can make masturbation turn into a safe space where you discover yourself.
Pro tips: Some trans women find that calling their penis something else, such as “girl dick”, “junk”, or frankly, whatever sparks most joy. Try out different labels, and see what works for you.
Pressing motions are the way to go for many
When speaking of new ways to touch your junk – exploring pressure, such as by rubbing against a pillow or squeezing it gently, can feel more natural than jerking yourself off with back and forth motions.
#5 Vibrations feels amazing
For many trans women, playing with vibrations feels natural as well as extremely pleasurable!
Use a vibrator on the glans or on your balls, lay a wand against your thigh or put it against the anus – things that can lead to a whole new type of stimulation.
Discover new parts of the body
Not only the penis and the anal are sensitive – your nipples, the perineum and the balls also feel great to stimulate when you are horny, and involving them during solo sex can give more variation and a deeper pleasure.
Touch yourself in doggy style
To stand in doggy style while touching your junk can make you feel more feminine, so give that a try!
Last thoughts…
No matter if you have a penis or a vulva – you can deepen the pleasure during solo sex in many ways, making it much more interesting, enjoyable and hot – just remember to discover masturbation at your own pace, do the things you’re curious about, and always listen to your body!
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