Summer is the perfect time to turn up the heat when it comes to your love life
BY SOFIE ROOS, IMAGE BY FREESTOCKS
Are you looking to add some spice to your sex life this summer? I’m Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author at the Swedish relationship magazine Passionerad. I’m also bisexual, and am here to guide you to ways of making your sapphic summer sex even hotter!
Explore new places and get intimate outside of bed
The summer makes it so much easier to have sex outside. So, find a private field, go out in the forest, go hiking and set up a tent, or head to a small beach at night when no one is around. Make sure to bring a blanket to lie on, wet towels to clean up any mess, mosquito repellent, and make sure you’re up to date on the laws regarding sex in public for your area.
Read something sexy outside
Go to a park for a picnic, and bring a sex novel or a hot book that you read out loud for each other while lying there in the sun. I can’t think of any better foreplay than that…
Let things take time
Summer means it’s time to de-stress – even in bed! So open up a window, turn off your phones and lie there and enjoy each other’s bodies without a single thought of what’s going on outside of that room.
Make a sex wishlist
Make a shared note on your phone, and write down two to three things you’d like to try out in bed this summer – it could be roleplaying, bringing in new sex toys, having sex in new places or something else entirely. Then talk about what of the things you both are positive on, as well as how, and when, you can try it out.
This way, you can find new ways of having sex, which is perfect during the summer period when the both of you have vacation!
Be naked more often
Get rid of those clothes! Walk around in your home nude, sleep naked, watch TV without anything on… Showing more skin for each other will not only make you less heated, it also has a positive effect on your lust, I promise!
Water sex is fun
Take a swim under the moon in the ocean, or go to a private lake and skinny-dip there! Water sex is generally safe, as long as the water is clean enough to swim in. Just make sure to always be able to reach the bottom of the water you’re in.
Things won’t magically turn out great
Many people have a belief that their sex life will turn out amazing by itself during the summer – but for a majority of people, that’s not the case. So, make sure to communicate around intimacy, both about expectations and things you’d like to try out, and keep the communication alive for the whole season (and beyond!).
Struggling with heat? Get busy in the morning, or at night
Most homes get extremely heated up during the summer, and that’s not the best condition to get busy in the bedsheets. To beat the heat, try to get intimate early in the morning when it’s still cool outside, or wait until the temperature drops in the evening!
Don’t forget to stay hydrated, no matter if you’re going for a quickie or a longer stretch, bring a water bottle to the bedroom.
Pro tip: If you can’t stay in the heat, then go for a cold shower together, and either have sex in there, or go to bed when you’ve cooled off.
Into football…?
Sapphics love football, so, if you’re football fans or into any other summer sport, then perform oral sex on each other when the team your partner roots for is scoring a goal! If both of you hold on the same team, then why don’t you try to 69 each other when your team scores? This is a fun and hot game that makes your sports sessions even more intense.
Use control remote vibrators on each other
Invest in two remotely controlled vibrators, put them in and go out for a dinner, a walk or a concert, while you control them on each other. You will have a hard time not moaning and drawing attention to yourself… and you will want to get home to rip each other’s clothes off more than ever.
Use your bikinis to tie each other up
Using your bikinis as a bondage tool for tying up your hands and feet is amazingly hot, no matter if you’re at home, such as tying to the headboard of the bed, or in public, such as at an empty beach. This is simply a great way to make something you have at home into a sex tool!
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